Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man is the #1 New York Times bestselling relationship guide by comedian and media personality Steve Harvey. Originally published in 2009, the book offers a blunt, of
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Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man is the #1 New York Times bestselling relationship guide by comedian and media personality Steve Harvey. Originally published in 2009, the book offers a blunt, often humorous look at the male mindset to help women navigate dating and commitment.
Core Principles & Advice
Harvey's advice is built on the premise that men are "simple" and driven by three key factors: who they are, what they do, and how much they make.
- The Three Ps of Love: Harvey asserts that a man who truly loves you will always do three things: Profess (claim you publicly), Provide (take care of your needs), and Protect (ensure your safety).
- "Sports Fish" vs. "Keepers": The book teaches women how to distinguish between men who are just playing and those looking for a future. It encourages women to set high standards to signal they are "keeper" material.
- The 90-Day Rule: Inspired by corporate probation periods, Harvey suggests withholding physical intimacy for 90 days to test a man's respect and long-term intentions.
- Five Essential Questions: Women are encouraged to ask potential partners five specific questions about their goals, views on relationships, and feelings to determine their seriousness.
- Standards & Boundaries: A major theme is that men will only respect the boundaries that a woman sets and enforces for herself.
Cultural Impact
- Film Adaptation: The book's massive success led to the 2012 hit movie Think Like a Man, starring Kevin Hart and Gabrielle Union, which followed several couples using the book's advice.
- Expanded Edition: Harvey later released an expanded edition with new sections on dealing with exes, spicing up long-term relationships, and preparing for marriage.
Critical Reception
While many readers find the book empowering and educational, it has also faced criticism for promoting sexist or traditional gender roles and oversimplifying complex human behaviors.
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